Who guides the one everyone turns to?
You know the role.
The one who listens deeply.
The one who gives perspective.
The one people lean on when they feel lost, stuck, or uncertain.
You’re the steady one.
The calm in the chaos.
The one others quietly count on—until it’s not so quiet.
But here’s the problem:
When you’re always the leader, you rarely get led.
And that comes with a cost.
💼 Let’s be real…
Who does the CEO turn to when she’s carrying the pressure of an entire company on her shoulders?
Who gives perspective to the executive coach whose calendar is full of other people’s breakthroughs?
Who challenges the founder, the head of people, the pastor, the parent—anyone who’s expected to have all the answers?
You can be brilliant, skilled, and wise—and still feel profoundly alone in your questions.
You can lead the room and still feel lost behind closed doors.
You can hold space for everyone—and feel like no one truly sees you.
🎭 The Mask of Leadership
Here’s the sneaky truth I’ve seen in high-performers:
Sometimes, being the leader becomes a mask.
It’s not that you don’t have questions.
It’s that it feels safer to be the one who helps than the one who’s still figuring it out.
It feels easier to hold space for others than to let someone hold it for you.
And the longer you stay in that role, the more distant you become from your own edge—the place where your next level is waiting.
🧍♂️ What I’ve Learned Firsthand
Early in my career, I thought the idea of spending thousands of dollars on coaching and mentorship was ridiculous.
But over the years, I’ve invested over $100,000 in my own personal and professional growth.
That number used to make me wince.
Today, I see the ROI in ways that changed everything:
- The clarity to make bold decisions.
- The confidence to raise my rates and work only with ideal clients who are willing to do both the inner and outer work.
- The inner grounding to go head-to-head with assertive, high-powered leaders from some of the world’s most iconic brands—without shrinking.
- The honest, unfiltered feedback about my leadership and presence that led to exponential growth.
- The ability to show up fully—not just as a coach or advisor—but as a human.
And none of that came from reading books or going it alone.
It came from letting go of the idea that I had to be the one with all the answers.
🔥 The Real Invitation
You don’t need more tools.
You need more truth.
And sometimes, the most courageous thing a leader can do…
is stop leading for a moment—and let themselves be led.
Not because you’re weak.
Not because you’re failing.
But because the next version of you—the bolder one, the freer one, the one who leads from deeper truth— is waiting on the other side of surrender.
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